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My thoughts on Pregnant Jessica Simpson (a little rant)
If you have watched any morning news recently, you surely have heard of all the talk going on with Jessica Simpson's weight and her pregnancy.


If you have followed my blog for any time you may remember my great fear in getting pregnant again, and this media bullying is yet another reason my fear rises. My injustice wants to fight for her, and for all pregnant women who gain{perhaps more than may be wanted} weight during their pregnancies.

Here Jessica Simpson is, and obviously big, being at the end of her pregnancy. Yes, she is big, ok....but she is still a woman, she has feelings....are you kidding me? The media calling her fat, not even "over weight", or maybe gained more than she should have, no...just FAT! I think that should be classified as a derogatory word.

Our society is so messed up. We have all these programs on about how horrible bullying is and how we don't know how hard it is for these kids who are getting put down by all their peers. Ummm, where do you think they are getting it from media people?? YOU GUYS! How can you expect our young people to treat others who are struggling or different from ourselves with more love and respect when you are willing to rip on someone in front of millions, really? And do you REALLY think that she doesn't know that she is big? Do you think she is like..."Oh I have a great idea, I am going to be SUPER unhealthy and endanger my baby?" Because I certainly don't. 

And maybe it's all a ploy to earn money for her. I heard she has signed to Jenny Craig or something and hey...the more she has to lose the more DRAMATIC the before and afters, but for me, it is the principle of the thing.
People think that just because you are pregnant that you are no longer a woman, one that might struggle with weight, one that still has self esteem (or lack there of) someone who hurts when you criticize her body. She doesn't cease to be all these things just because she is growing a child inside of her. Everyone is a genius pregnancy and child rearing expert when they find out your pregnant. Most of it is all good intentioned, but we all need to remember the delicate state of women who are going through something that might be very hard for them. 

When you are pregnant for the first time, you have no clue what is going on. You feel so different, you are so tired, you are not yourself. And God bless all those who have simple, easy, uneventful, and minimal weight gain pregnancies...that is amazing for them... but that is not everyone's experience. I felt helpless, I felt ugly, I felt out of control, and once I realized I may be making more unhealthy choices than healthy, it was too late. I couldn't lose weight while I was still pregnant, I could only do what I could from there on out. People think they can say anything they want to you about your body when your pregnant, because its temporary, but that person is still connected to that body. For me, those statements stuck to my soul well after my son was born. Obviously the fact that I am writing this post two and half years later is testimony to that.

And then I come across this article today "Pregnant Dieters Make Obese Babies" and Mommy-rexia. Seriously? So if we eat too much we are fat child-endagerers, but if we try to keep it under control to the other extreme were thin child-endangerers? It's like "they" are saying 
"Just try to do it perfect, cause if you don't we will be watching you...
and judging your ability to be a good mother."

Being a woman in this society and listening to all these messages and trying to strike a healthy balance seems so hard. Be yourself, be healthy, be balanced....but look skinny, beautiful and young while you do it. 


So all I, {or we} can do, as young mom's is quiet the voices. Be the best pregnant mommies we can be, take care of our bodies the best we can, learn from our mistakes and do better next time. Trust that our health, beauty, and families are deeper and more valuable then the shallow messages that are shouted at us at all times. Remember that we don't have personal chefs, trainers and 3 nannies at our fingertips. That we can love and accept ourselves, even when we are not perfect at everything. 
No one is, they fail to remember that.

{I do have to give props to the news anchor who reported the story that said she gained 60 lbs with her pregnancy and she lost it, and her son was all worth it. Thank you for remembering the point of the weight in the first place, a precious baby!}